Sometimes You Win Sometimes You Learn : by John C. Maxwell
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Inspiring, prolific and best-selling author John. C. Maxwell explains how to learn from and cope with failure. Maxwell draws on examples, stories and observations, creating a readable manual filled with practical observations. If you put winning ahead of learning, Maxwell says, you will suffer, because failure is part of life. In the face of loss, he urges, remain hopeful and try to be “teachable.” Maxwell is a breezy, direct writer. His advice carries the weight of hard-earned knowledge and fundamental common sense. Maxwell evokes great thinkers – like psychologist Karl Jung – and the lessons of tiny, everyday experiences.
Review :
Chapter 1 – Humility: The spirit of learning
Some people bounce back from losses. Others never recover. What’s the difference?
John Maxwell says it’s humility.
John Maxwell says it’s humility.
Humility as in the opposite of pride.
Prideful people respond to failure in ways that don’t help them move forward, like denying and blaming others. People with a spirit of humility instead learn from successes and losses (Ed note: this is a what a fixed mindsetdoes).
Prideful people respond to failure in ways that don’t help them move forward, like denying and blaming others. People with a spirit of humility instead learn from successes and losses (Ed note: this is a what a fixed mindsetdoes).
Here’s what humility does for you:
–Gives you perspective: humility doesn’t mean you think less of yourself. It means you think of yourself less. And it will allow you to look at the bigger picture.
–Enables you to admit a mistake: and thus to learn and grow.
–Allows to let go of perfectionism:contrary to prideful people, those with a spirit of humility aren’t afraid of a mistake.
Chapter 2 – Reality: The Foundation of Learning
John Maxwell says that when we accept that life is hard, we begin to grow.
Successful people don’t shy away from difficulties, they learn to face them and move ahead in spite of them.
And here’s a new perspective for you: what if instead of fearing difficulties, you welcome them as a test of character and use them to rise to the occasion.
And here’s a new perspective for you: what if instead of fearing difficulties, you welcome them as a test of character and use them to rise to the occasion.
Roots author Alex Haley said: “Either you deal with what is the reality, or you can be sure that the reality is going to deal with you”. Facing reality and accepting the problem will not conquer it, but it’s the very first step to overcome it.
John Maxwell says you should realistically rate the performance independently of whether you win or lose.
And life is definitely harder for those who stop growing and learning. Some people become focused on a specific goal that when they achieve it they relax, because they feel they made it. That mindset has the power to unmake them (arrival plateau).
Chapter 3 – Responsibility: The first step of learning
John Maxwell says that nothing happens to advance our potential until we step up and say, “I am responsible.”
If you don’t take responsibility, you give up control of your life (external locus of control). Taking responsibility for your life instead puts you in a place where you are always able to learn and often able to win (internal locus of control).
If you don’t take responsibility, you give up control of your life (external locus of control). Taking responsibility for your life instead puts you in a place where you are always able to learn and often able to win (internal locus of control).
Lack of responsibility means:
- Victim Mentality;
- Blamestorming activity, which is what John Maxwell designs as the creative process to find a scapegoat
- Giving away control of our lives : if you don’t take responsibility for what happens in your life you relinquish ownership of your life
- No growth: and little chances of success-
Taking responsibility means:
- First step in learning : taking responsibility for what you can control and letting go of what you cannot will accelerate your learning process
- Seeing Things in Proper Perspective : The best learners are people who don’t see their losses and failures as permanent (develop a growth mindset)
- Backing Up Our Words With Behavior: Jeff O’Leary wrote “sign your work at the end of each day. If you can’t do that, find a new profession.” When you can take full responsibility for our work, you reach integrity.
Chapter 4 – Improvement: The Focus of Learning
The Stone Age didn’t end because people ran out of stones. It ended because people kept learning and improving.
1. Improving Yourself Is the First Step to Improving Everything Else. Whatever you want to improve in your life, you need to first start with yourself.
2. Improvement Requires Us to Move Out of Our Comfort Zone. Always doing the safe thing will not take you forward. You must surrender security to improve.
3. Improvement Is Not Satisfied with “Quick Fixes”. “Everyone is looking for a quick fix, but what they really need is fitness. People who look for fixes stop doing what’s right when pressure is relieved. People who pursue fitness do what they should no matter what.”
4. Improvement Is a Daily Commitment. If you want to improve, you need to make it a habit. Motivation is nice but short lived. It’s the positive habits you practice consistently that will get you far.
To be continued.....
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